Brenda Niley was in an accident several years ago which left her unable to have children of her own. When she married her husband, he came with four children. ” I’m forever grateful to their mom, despite our differences and difficulties, because she has given me what I can’t have: children in my life.” Niley has an attitude like no other. It’s not that she particularly gets along with the biological mother, but she’s simply grateful to have children in her life. ” She did what I couldn’t do. I’m grateful for that”
Perhaps you are a stepmother who could never bear the thought of giving birth, are medically unable to or simple never got around to it. Having children and wanting children are two very different concepts. For many, having a child in their life can only mean one thing: having a child through the natural way. The idea of being with another’s child may seem odd to them. ” Living with another man’s children seemed so wierd to me for a long time. But now I realize that it’s not so bad. I’m grateful for the times they had with their [now deceased] father, he helped shape who they’ve become” States a Stepfather of two.
While for many it seems a long shot, Mothers and fathers should be giving thanks to step parents who have stepped up to the plate when they are not present. Whether they do or not is upon themselves, but if one stops to think about it, shouldn’t they be grateful that a child has another person to love them? While many parents and stepparents aren’t grateful, perhaps they should be. A recent question on a public forum was asked step parents. ” When was the last time the biological parent showed any gratitude toward you?” Once the online laughing died down, the response was a unified ” never”.
” My stepdaughters father would never ever thank me, I know deep down he does appreciate it, but he’d never say it” a stepfather comments.
This year, perhaps it’s time to put aside those differences and start looking for things to be grateful. If your child is neat as a pin, a trait he gets from his biological father, mention that to dad. Bring notice and appreciation to something small and give thanks to the parent or step parent that’s done something for the child. Children aren’t always aware of how much parents and step parents do, and will often overlook being thankful. So if you notice that suddenly your child has learned to flush the toilet by herself because of stepmom, give that stepmom 7 seconds of gratitude and thanks. Not only will you feel better by making someone smile, it’s a nice way to simply reach out and acknowledge what another parent has done for a child.
This is the season of Thanksgiving. Put the turkey and stuffing aside for a moment and reach out to someone who might just need that tiny little boost this season. You’ll be glad you did.