Everyone knows this guy. He may be your brother, best friend, ex-boyfriend, neighbor, or cousin. He’s the guy who refuses to be in a relationship around the holidays. His relationship issues exist around Christmas and Valentine’s Day, or any other holiday where a gift might seem appropriate. Not sure if he’s cheap or that he just can’t handle the pressure of picking out a gift, but he’d rather chew off his own arm to get out of the relationship than to maintain the relationship during the holidays. Here are some signs that you might be dating the “holiday dumper”:
1. All of a sudden he’s sensitive. A serial holiday dumper will begin laying the groundwork for a break up as early as Thanksgiving. All you did was ask him to pass the gravy and he flipped out. The holiday dumper will begin to pick fights with you on a daily basis as Christmas approaches. This way it doesn’t seem all of sudden when you’re not together on Christmas day.
2. Paranoia begins. All of a sudden he believes that you’re cheating on him. If you have good manners and say, “please, thank you, or hello” to strangers you’ve got to be cheating. Smiling is frowned upon as well. All you did was order his drink for him while he went to the men’s room, and now you’ve been accused of giving the waiter your phone number.
3. Breaking up is constantly on the table. With all the newfound nonsense you’ve been putting up with you of course defend your actions. He doesn’t want to talk about it and suggests that you guys should be on a break. His answer for any and everything is that you guys should be on a break.
4. After Christmas. The guy you know and love has magically reappeared. He’s calling again and is very apologetic for his behavior over the past few weeks. It’s not that he didn’t want to be with you, he just didn’t want to be judged by the type of gift he might have to buy for you.
Some men are just cheap and would prefer not to buy their significant other anything more than dinner, and that’s only because they’ve got to eat too. Other men might feel that women expect too much from their boyfriends during the holidays and rather bow out than to even try.
Communication is key. If you’re strapped for cash just tell your girlfriend. You guys can set a dollar limitation for gifts for each other. Not into the materialism that has now become associated with the birth of our Lord and Savior? Say so. If you don’t believe in exchanging Christmas gifts you should have told her that when the two of you first started courting. Then it wouldn’t be such a surprise. But the fact of the matter is that most girls like gifts. It’s naïve for a guy to think he will never have to give his girlfriend a gift other than the pleasure of his company.
Merry Christmas and happy dating!
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