‘Tis the season to be jolly! But what do the holiday’s mean to military families? All to often it means another seperation and seasons greeting over emails or Skype. Not the ideal way to spend your Christmas and New Years. I interviewed Karen Newcomer about being married to the military and how she keeps her marriage and family strong.
‘ I am a Proud Army spouse of 16 years. When I married Todd, I married the military too! When we first got married, we only had handwritten letters and a phone call maybe once a month. I would also stay glued to the television for any news about his unit. Technology now allows us to keep in touch so much more. We now have emails, Skype, and more frequent phone calls. I believe that our marriage stays strong because we both understand the challenges that each other has to deal with. We also let each other know how much we appreciate one another.
Over the 16 years, I have dealt with multiple deployments which means I have had to help my children of different ages during that time. This has been the biggest challenge as kids deal with these times in their own way and they don’t always just say “Hey mom, this is how I’m feeling.” Usually they just act out in one way or another. The only thing I can do is be there for them and remember the fears they have and how hard this is on them.
As for organization, I have to laugh a little. Is there such a thing? Seriously, I can only try to keep some normalcy in our lives by following through with the routines we go through when dad is home. It is difficult to find the desire to do so at times, but it is something I have to do. I pull myself up by the bootstraps and move on. I do all of this not only to support my soldier, but this is how I serve my country.’