Isn’t it interesting how often we get into our routine of life and suddenly realize it’s been days, weeks, months, maybe even years since we’ve connected, in any mode, with a certain friend or friends? Oftentimes this moment becomes filled with mixed emotions of guilt, anxiety and even anger or resentment. Then, the moment passes and we realize we’ve spent more time analyzing why it is we haven’t been in touch versus the time it would have taken to reach out to them – but yet we still don’t and decide to wait for another day. God places every person in our lives for a reason – that reason is to fulfill His divine purpose for each of us which ultimately grows our character and maturity in Him.
Friendships are one of the most important parts of life for survival, sanity, companionship and spiritual growth. Proverbs 17:17 (NIV) says “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity”. The older we get the more trials we inevitably endure, but in each trial or time of adversity, either a new friendship is formed for the time at hand planned all along by God’s divine grace or existing friendships are tested and strengthened. We as Christians know this to be true and know how valuable and important our friends are to us in times of need, but in ‘ordinary’ times it becomes too easy to get caught up in all the other ‘things’ in our lives which require our attention; before we know it we realize we far too easily let our friendships fall to last on our list and have failed to give them the level of respect and attention they deserve. God’s word tells us that “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
Let us remember to make our friendships a priority. Let us be reminded of that last particularly tough trial we overcame through God’s grace of providing the right people in our path at the right time. Let us not hesitate to vocalize our gratefulness at having those particularly special friendships that allow us to completely ‘let loose’ and be our authentic selves without judgment in one instance and then in the next stand firm in love challenging us when we choose actions that aren’t in line with our spiritual beliefs or growth as Christians.
The next time a friend comes to mind and we realize time has passed since we’ve caught up with them, rather than over-thinking it, simply choose to stop and connect in that moment as it could mean the difference between having a friend to help pick us up the next time we fall or being pitied for having no one to help us up at all.