Emostyle stems from a combination of several music genres that appears to have grown darker and darker for teens since its origin in the 1980s. It is a style of rock music typically characterized by a certain style of dress and make-up and melodic musicianship with expressive, often confessional lyrics – very moving, very emotional. One of the most popular “emo” bands is Aerosmith. William Shakespeare wrote in his act 2, scene 7 from his play, As You Like It…All the world’s a stage,And all the men and women merely players.
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man (or woman) in his/her time plays many parts,…
Recently, a very musically talented young teen deemed an “Emo kid” http://www.pennlive.com/midstate/index.ssf/2010/11/teen_suicide_victim_was_tired.html committed suicide in Central Pennsylvania. He had been teased and taunted to the point where nothing mattered anymore and he stepped out in front of a semi-truck. This was just three days after a school anti-bullying assembly. To read his peer’s expressed feelings, thoughts and reactions, please click on Friends: Bullying Led To Tragedy…Mid -West mourns third student death in 8 months at… http://dailyitem.com/0100_news/x603547374/Bullied-student-kills-self.What is so interesting about this article is that according to the local newspaper interview (The Daily Item), the school district superintendent stated that the assembly was held because the principal felt so strongly about the issue of bullying. Anyone who has gone into a school for a presentation on anti-bullying or teen dating violence walks away listening to their inside voice saying “If you saved one, then a job well done.” This sounds a bit cliche’, but otherwise educators would never emotionally survive the vicarious trauma of youth suicides, which according to the Center for Disease Control, bullying accounted for 547 Pennsylvania youth suicides between the ages of 10 – 24 during the school years 2003 and 2005. Youth Violence State Statistics. http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/youthviolence/stats_at-a_glance/PA.html Educators want EVERY student to thrive and survive, especially under their watch. Bullying needs to stop NOW. What we really need to ask ourselves after such an incident occurs is, “What could we (educators, parents, friends, bystanders and community) have done to identify this young man as a potential target at risk and head off his final cry for help?One of his friends in the article stated, “…but they bullied him for his sexual preferences and the way he dressed. Which,” she said, “they wrongly accused him of.” It is extremely difficult to address someone’s sexual preference when it is personal and something that should never be assumed. However, dressing “emo” style is a dead give-away that just maybe that teen is a target for bullying. The teen needs someone to recognize the possibility they could be in trouble, someone to respond by being a persistent friend or mentor and someone to refer that teen for help by first talking to a trusted adult. If you are a target or a friend of a target, please talk to a trusted adult in your life (parent, counselor, clergy, etc.) – someone you know will hear you and take action. Taking that first step could save a life. That trusted adult will help you find the right resources for your area. However, if you feel in immediate danger from your own thoughts/feelings or the bully, dial 911 immediately – you owe that call to yourself and to everyone who loves you. We will all miss Brandon.