Insecurities form from all kinds of baggage that we have collected over extended periods of time. This ranges from that chaotic relationship when you were 16 to the ever-present lovely man that you have today. What is most fascinating about time is that sometimes, it doesn’t tend to heal the things that we need the most. Mostly, those stagnant wounds tend to remain when it comes to love and finding that one to share your life with.
To the demise of most relationships, it is hard to drop the mind games we play with ourselves long enough to see a good thing when it is right in front of us. This too-good-to-be-true relationship becomes something that we subconsciously try to sabotage; that being, before it sees the normal you that you really are.
So, what to do to prevent this self/relationship sabotage? Take stock in who you are. Try to sit with yourself and recognize the insecurities that you might be dealing with from the past. Remember, the common denominator in every relationship you’ve been in is you. Therefore, you will find recurrences in the development, qualities and ultimate end of your relationship.
Once you have assessed yourself from a very real perspective, begin to notice those insecurities as they rise. Furthermore, try to be rational if this insecurity is rooted in a very true, factual place or if it is the result of past wounds showing their ugly heads. What we regret the most in life is letting it pass us by. Therefore, do not let the good pass you by for fear of what you have known in relationships before. Beginning to work on yourself, with yourself, will better help you articulate these issues the one person who, inevitably, will not only understand, but love you for it.