Can you feel it? As the holidays are nigh upon us, the stress increases as the countdown to the holidays decreases. Like a slug crawling up our naked spines, the stress leaves us feeling very uncharitable.
Psychologically, we measure our performance against the inflated expectations generated by advertisers, who want us to believe that if we don’t pony up to the gift buying levels projected by economic pundits that we are not only Scrooges but we are also un-American. Like paying our taxes, we are expected to float cash into the depressed economy and acquire more credit card debt so that all those banks we bailed out can remain solvent. And if we don’t then we are some sort of low life revenue cheats who want to see the economy fail and the free market collapse.
Then there is the forced, stretched and strained social interactions that we are shamed into attending. What kind of person refuses to go spend their time off with people about whom they neither care nor especially like? Not-so-good people, that’s who. If you don’t spend at least some time this holiday season with others that you secretly despise then you are, most assuredly, a Grinch.
Well, that’s what we have been culturally trained to believe by Madison Avenue and the likes of Edward Bernays and John Watson.
Not to worry, however. There is help available in the form of hypnosis!
Make an appointment to relieve the mounting stress. Lower that blood pressure and realize that the holidays are not about monetary things. The holidays are about renewing healthy relationships with others about whom we care, and this is neither about gifting nor re-creating fictional settings most common in Dickens’ novels and Currier & Ives cardstock (BTW, did you know that Charles Dickens was quite the hypnotist, or, Mesmerist, as they were known at the time?).
If you feel the need to give something, give others a gift certificate for hypnosis and let them enjoy the gift of wellness in the coming year. If you don’t feel the need to give something then don’t. A good rule of thumb is that if you have to question if you should give a gift or if you don’t want to give a gift then you probably shouldn’t. We know who are the important people in our lives and they are close to the forefront of our hearts and minds, especially during the holidays.
These people don’t care about receiving a gift because our friendship based on the seven caring habits is sufficient to bring them (and, reciprocally, us) happiness. You will recall the seven caring habits: Supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting and negotiating differences.
Even if we are forced (we chose to do it even though we don’t want to) into spending time with others about whom we don’t particularly care, we can work toward creating a better experience by avoiding the seven deadly habits: Criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing (gifting) as an attempt to control. If others persist in doing these things around you then I give you permission to leave the situation (while still practicing the seven caring habits).
Hypnosis gift certificates are available at Knoxville Center for Clinical Hypnosis. Call them today at 865-851-8687 and get yours. Remember that they also do life coaching using Choice Theory Psychology and the Procedures that Lead to Change.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! May you and yours have a wonderful holiday filled with only the best of everything, but, especially, with need-fulfilling relationships!
Experiment with life. Nurture those you love.