Do you think you’re too old to find love, be pleasantly surprised, or even feel the tingle of a new romance skip across your skin, creating goose bumps and giddy excitement? Well think again. Today, I had the privilege of hearing two amazing stories of budding romance from two beautiful ladies over the age of 50! So, in lieu of the usual Fetish Friday, today’s topic is finding love when you’re not even looking for it! Talk about a spring fling in what some might consider the winter of their lives!
By the time most women and men reach a certain age (somewhere in the mid-thirties) they think they have it all figured out where relationships are concerned. The only problem with that certainty is that it may be completely negative. If previous relationships have left these guys and gals sour on love, then they might end up jaded and alone for the second half of their lives. That’s just sad!
As I enjoyed my salon visit, my wonderful stylist, Judy, shared something very personal with me. Recently, she met a remarkable man. After several failed marriages, she had lost all hope and expectation of ever meeting “the right one”. Now, the trick of that phrase is not to interpret it as “Mr. Right”. The right interpretation is “the right one for you!” Her new relationship was going so well with this great guy that she just couldn’t believe it. She had finally met a man who got her. They enjoy each other’s company without criticism, without jealousy, and without the stress to be “a certain way”. In other words, they can both just be themselves. Judy decided to express her feelings about how he has changed her cynical perception of men in a hand-written letter. It’s to be part of his birthday gift which is this month. As I’m a writer, she asked me to give it a read and offer my opinion. I did. It nearly brought me to tears.
She was so worried about how he might interpret the letter, concerned that it could have some kind of backlash affect if he should think she was hinting at their future. She is adamantly against being pushy about such things, and in no way wants him to think the letter is anything else but a simple thank you for changing her world in a positive and amazing way. I told her to stop worrying so much about it. Any man would be thrilled to get such a letter from the lady he obviously is falling in love with (I’ve witnessed him “dropping” by her shop just to bring her lunch when she didn’t even expect it!)
The truth is that her feelings have left her feeling vulnerable because this man sees right through all the walls she puts up to protect herself from being hurt. It’s darn scary to put yourself out there like that. However, I don’t feel she has anything to worry about except exhaustion because after he reads that letter, he’s going to pounce on her like a frisky cat all night long! In her 50’s, Judy has finally found someone who compliments the fantastic person that she is. He appreciates her. He’s proud of her. He wants to be her knight in shining armor, but not in a pushy way. He gives her her space and let’s her set the pace. They even have matching dogs! (completely unintended as they had the dogs before meeting each other).
Romantic story number two comes from my friend’s mom who just told me she has a new boyfriend. Mom is 70! She hasn’t dated in a very long time yet here she was, out at a dance with friends when a handsome older gentlemen whisked her out onto the dance floor. Turns out they are the same age. One dance turned into two, then three, and before she knew it, she had agreed to go out to dinner and a movie. The date went well. He calls her often, and even gave her a picture of himself to keep. On the back, in Spanish, it says “With my best wishes, even when I am not with you, carry me near with this picture”. What a smoothie, eh? Those Latin lovers never lose their mojo! She is just tickled, and giggling almost as much as a teenager. Seeing this usually pragmatic lady reduced to a fancied girl is a sight to behold.
When Ponce de Leon went in search of the fountain of youth, he failed to look to the one place where everyone can dive in…a new romance and love! Love brings hope; it offers happiness through giving, joy through recieving, and ten years off your age by simply smiling from ear to ear with goofy contentment as all who are in love do.
Both of these stories show just how true the old adage is; when you stop looking for love is when love finds you! No matter your age or situation, never give up on love. Love has not given up on you!
Newly Published! HARVEST, an original short-story by Michele Gwynn is now available for download in PDF on Lulu.com. Harvest tells the fictional tale of what happens when human greed and gluttony override compassion and humane treatment of cattle in feedlots. When Dave Forrester wakes to discover that everyone he knows in Farley, Oklahoma has disappeared, it’s up to him to discover why, and figure out how to save the few who survive….the harvest.
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In addition to this local column, and her work as a Freelance Journalist in San Antonio, Michele Gwynn is also the National Animal Rights Examiner. Her love of pets began at an early age with a stray cat named Harvey, and a dying field mouse named Tucker. She is a pet parent to four cats, and an animal rights champion to all critters, large and small. Visit her animal rights column here.
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