The holidays are quickly approaching and so is the anxiety! Gift giving, meeting new family members and perfecting the diet preparations of the dinner are just some of the stressful burdens we have to endure!
But at the same time, we anticipate the same exact things! Is it possible to be both anxious and eager during the holidays?
The mixed emotions that come with the holidays affect many of us. One minute your partner wants to scream at you because the turkey is dry and then the next minute she is sharing a tender moment with a loved one.
These complicated emotions take a toll on a relationship! Some couples feel they need to be careful of things they say or do in each other’s company until the holidays are completely over.
This is the time to take a mental break and just get away from it all, even if it is just for a few hours! The holiday stress can be put on the back shelf while you and your partner arbitrarily enjoy something that has nothing to do with the holidays.
One idea is you can attend a car show which has absolutely nothing to do the holidays and will not break your bank account! Whether you know your cars or have never been to a car show, just attending will get your mind off the holidays.
Or if you prefer something calm and peaceful, take a stroll with your spouse on a brisk fall day. Soak in all the sounds during the walk! The easy exercise of the walk combined with active listening is a wondrous stress reliever!
Do not make this stroll into a competition with your partner which would be counterproductive. It is not a marathon! Try to identify every sound you hear or listen for new sounds. You will be amazed at how relaxing a stroll with active listening is! The trick is to clear your thoughts and focus on ‘listening.’ Let your hearing consume all the sounds of the environment.
Anxiety should not ruin your anticipation. Find your peace with your partner and start enjoying the holiday!
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