HAPPY BIRTHDAY THANKSGIVING MERRY CHRISTMAS…..
Holiday HAPPY Birthdays. What can you do?
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Scores of the populace share a Birthday with a holiday. For days like (Labor Day), that day isn’t so bad. But when the holiday comes to Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter or the 4th of July, the person can feel like they are getting the short end of the stick. Children especially feel like they are getting the short end of the stick when their birthday isn’t that (exclusive) day t everyone else…Boo whoooo, its gets so sad…. It will make them feel extra (individual) like, if you take time out and give them their (own) specialness.
When my boys were growing up I had the un-daunting task, following (self inflicted guilt) of making sure that the children had memorable “Dreams” of Sugar Plums dancing in their heads to (reflect back on). The Oakland Ethnic Restaurant Examiner finds the Ethnic restaurant that is right for you and yours. This can be applied to all Ethnic backgrounds.
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I am a big believer in nurturing children as best as to the mental development of your child.
It is very important to give your children something to reflect back on. (I studied child psychology and sociology) in college. Mentally healthy babies grow into mentally healthy adults.
Is it (right) to celebrate one Childs date of birth over another? Just to please your own desires of having the Season our way?
You’re the one that (chose) the time of the year, not them.
Or solely in keeping within your (fictitious) budget, so (you) can by a extra bottle of liquor or shoes?
Is it your money, your budget for the Season? You see in their little faces that they are feeling slighted and are now wishing that they could move their birthdates into those months that are shared by those that they feel are more fortunate enough to be born (say) April through October?
It was additionally tasking because (two of my son’s) Birthdays centralized their presence right in all the Fun.
The eldest son’s birthday is Dec 6th. The other Dec 28th. Then he married a beautiful young woman, whose birthday was dealt in on Dec 11th. I have other relatives and others just that have made a MASS exodus from their existence into ours. Into our FUN.
My father we settled with him years prior, his on Dec 24th. Never mind the other family members and acquaintances Birthdays were also going on. I did an impromptu survey at my job with 500 (personnel) folders. The Birthdays began accumulating everyday and peeking around Dec 11th thru the 16th. The Birthdays leveled out and held steady, all the way into January.
I say that there were a lot of “Happy” Tax refunds being refunded? (I’m just saying).
My husband and I would start November. I began preparing the “Sweet Potato Pies”. The pies became a tradition with us.
I would bake about 40 to 100 pies and packaged them up and froze them. I also prepared my own style “frozen food” dinners. You name it, I froze it. Yes and “C” dinners also. They were the most requested.
They were passed out throughout the season, like “Trick or Treat” candy. We did the Thanksgiving ritual, but slowly sneaking up on us was December 6th. Every year like clockwork (I guess it was, huh?) We took advantage of this secret time. We began December 1st.
We would depart off to (a) Mall and had the majority of the month as “Date nights and Days out” We took advantage of this secret time. First point of the mission would be our eldest son’s birthday. Kory being the eldest we would go out of our way to please him. Of course he didn’t ask for all of those brothers to appear (smile). We by no manner came within the range of the Duggards the show called “19 Kids and Counting” Kory was a good kid growing up.
But his decision in coming a few weeks early was a blessing. He was due Dec 21st. So we had an advantage on planning a few extra days more to his special day. Set in motion the outings.
On his special day, we would bring out the stand out (gift) it became tougher each year as he aged. But he knew and we knew, that he would be satisfied about being born during the holidays.
He now smiles and looks (at this time) of the year and his birth date as (magical) more so for him and “welcome to my world you other people” as added plus.
Our son born on December 28th (smh) boy was this an achievement.
We had to go through Thanksgiving and the eldest son’s birthday; avoiding all the other family/friends that were seeking birthday gifts. (They received Sweet Potato Pies).
Getting back to the shopping, (or let’s say after a month’s long Date month) we survived.
Our task now was to remand one gift back until December 28th. Of course it was the largest and the one that he most wanted. (We saw no way of settling for less) We didn’t want him crying later in his Adult years about how we snubbed him on his birthday.
He couldn’t wait. He bounced around for days after Christmas, knowing that his Christmas was still going on. He knew that it would be special, but he did not know which one of his special gifts he requested would be honor or how we would honor the day of his birth. We may have just decided in taking him to Reno (chuckle) or Las Vegas. Reason is because when we would go, we would bring them all back a bag of 50cent pieces (practically the only place we could find those coins any more) adding up to $50. And No none of them have gambling habits. Everything is put into perspective with my boys.
The family and friends that were aware of the “free” Holiday Birth of their natal day give always, (of course) did their annual “oh I was just in the neighborhood” spill. They would leave with a special frozen dinner, pie and a small frozen Holiday cupcake (no not fruit cake) although I bake a beautiful “Banana Pineapple Nut Fruit Cake” (yummy) We began to do a “Scooby Doo” hand turn when our relatives/friends that didn’t care about Christmas OR Birthdays, began shuffling by hollering “Merry Christmas” this is when we decided in shifting our (ideals) over to HAPPY HOLIDAYS. It worked for us.
I searched high and low on how others made it through this plight and came across these forms of torture.
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This party was done at my house for a 6 year old.
Each child wore a Halloween costume.
I set up a small Christmas tree under which the children placed their presents when they arrived. As we waited for all for the guests, children strung popcorn and made simple ornaments to decorate the tree. The cake was decorated with each corner representing one holiday.
Before we ate the cake and ice cream, we passed a small stuffed turkey around the table. Whoever was holding the Turkey told one thing for which they were thankful. There was a Haunted House in the garage for Halloween.
Terri M Whitaker
Here’s one of my favorites:
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Here’s additional how to’s have a special Birthday on a Holiday
How to Make a Holiday Birthday Special | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_2174357_holiday-birthday-special.html#ixzz15wi9FCMR
I remember back in the day, when the whole families use to get together. We had those that would cook and those that would use to go from house to house and collect plates or bring their own pots for the over flow offerings. At the end of the day, we would settle down at one house or end up at home with enough food to last a week. We actually thought seemed that we had cooked. Of course we had our (special) family. That one that didn’t believe in the spirit of the season and the other family that couldn’t afford to believe in the season. We took care of both of them. Why? Because they were our family.
Those were the days