Christmas is 4 days away. The tree is up, the Christmas decorations are in place, the stockings are hanging by the chimney with care and then it dawns on you that your in-laws will be here this weekend. Your home is not as clean as you would like for it to be so you bust your behind to clean as much as you can before they arrive. Regardless as to whether or not you get along with your in-laws, listed below are a few tips to get you through the holidays without offending them or ending the Christmas weekend arguing with your spouse about them.
- Let grandparents be grandparents Let’s face it you don’t necessarily agree with everything that they say regarding how you raise your kids, but the truth is…they are your kids’ grandparents…good or bad. There is nothing you can do to change that even if you were to get a divorce. This weekend only…let them be the grandparents. No you don’t agree that your child should have a fourth helping of candy canes, but they do. This is one of the most important times of the year that they get to spend time with their grandchildren so don’t bother arguing with them all because they could care less about cavities. Go ahead and let them tell your child things you would never say, just remember to keep a spare memory eraser handy (like Men in Black) to use after they leave. It’s just one weekend and everything you have instilled in your child won’t be completely destroyed.
- Let the in-laws believe whatever they want to believe: If they believe pigs can fly…then this weekend pigs do fly! Don’t waste your energy trying to convert them towards your no pig flying zone. Your in-laws are probably over 50 and are least likely to change their way of thinking today…so table your conversion session for an over the phone conversation. Just make sure your kids are not in the room and if they are be prepared to answer all those off the wall remarks that they heard. This includes politics. Just bite your tongue this weekend. You know how great the president is and that’s all that matters:)
- Add their food to your plate: So, your mother-in-law makes potato salad every year and it’s horrible and she doesn’t know it. This is how you solve something like that without offending her. First, don’t allow anyone to make your plate for you. Get up and make it yourself. Second, put a spoonful amount of that horrible dish on your plate. This way you won’t have to stomach such a large amount of it.
- Compliment your spouse: Even if the in-laws don’t like you the one thing they love is to see you love their child. Hearing positive things about their child gives them bragging rights because they raised them. So if the opportunity comes add a compliment about your spouse within the evening and by all means never join them in insulting your spouse even if it is funny or true. If they are insulting your spouse, they are insulting you so keep those positive comments coming.
- Go Out: After cleaning, cooking, eating and cleaning again…go out! Some fresh air will do all of you some good. There are many things you can do such as catch a movie at Discover Mills, or check out some Christmas lights throughout the neighborhoods in Lawrenceville.
The goal this weekend is to keep peace in your home between you and your spouse. And one of the best ways to do that is keep the peace between you and your in-laws. Have a Merry Christmas and remember they will be gone before you know it.