The holidays are a stressful time, especially for relationships. The pressure is on to give the perfect gift or make the best impression, but there are still a few things that can go wrong in the midst of melodious carols and jolly present exchanges. Do not get caught off guard when presented with the following relationship hurdles during the holidays.
Misconceptions about the seriousness of the relationships cause many problems during the holidays. When one person thinks the relationship is more or less serious than the other person thinks, problems arise. One problem is that you spent hours agonizing, trying to figure out the perfect gift for your partner, but your partner forgot to get you something, did not know what to get, or did not know you were expecting a gift. If this happens to you, it is time for a serious talk about your relationship since both parties are not on the same page. Do not act angry about not receiving a gift because there was a misunderstanding and it is no one’s fault.
Another issue that can occur is that you invite your partner to your house for the holidays, but he does not invite you to his holiday celebration in return. Since relationships are all about communication and learning about one another, it is time to have a discussion whenever there is a misunderstanding or misconception in the relationship. By talking and getting to know each other more, no problem becomes too serious to resolve.
When in a long distance relationship, it is difficult to learn about each other’s likes and dislikes because of the limited experiences couples share. Since couples in long distance relationships have less time together, they learn about each other over a longer span of time compared to a couple living in the same city. When the holidays come around, there is a possibility that both parties in the relationship will not know what to get each other because they have not had enough exposure to each other’s likes and dislikes. For this reason, one or both individual in the relationship may receive a gift they do not like very much.
The best way to handle the situation is to accept the gift graciously and make a point from that moment on to express your likes and dislikes. This situation can be avoided by subtly asking you partner before the holidays roll around what they have their eye on. If you and your partner are both worried about getting each other the wrong gift, you can each make a wish list on a site such as Amazon.com and send each other the link. This will ensure that you both receive what you want and will also help you learn what your partner’s likes and dislikes are for the future.
No matter what hurdles you and your partner come across during this holiday season, remember that anything can be overcome with the desire to learn about each other and grow as a couple.