If you can’t love yourself, who can you love?
If we started respecting ourselves more, the opposite sex might do the same, or at least we would put the message out there to attract the opposite sex who does respect us. If you tolerate abuse from other people, you are abusing yourself.
For every man/woman that is verbally or emotionally abusive, there is a someone who is not.
In an article by Cassie Goolsby on Factoidz.com, she talks about several situations of cheating men and women who keep going back for what undoubtedly will be more abuse. When you see other people in these types of relationships, do you ask yourself, how could a self respecting man/woman, stay in a relationship like that? Step outside of the mirrored carnival ride of confusion for a moment and really look at your situation. There are many reasons why we desire to be in relationships, but there are plenty of reasons we shouldn’t be.
For those living in your own misery, masquerading as blissful ignorance, here are some destructive behaviors you can watch out for.
Self Destructive Relationship Warnings
-Making you feel unworthy
-Not appreciating you for who you are
-Stunting your growth: emotional/career/friendship/goals
-Disrespect in any form
If you are receiving the brunt of any of these abuses, you can take a moment to reevaluate whether allowing yourself to continue receiving that abuse is actually self-destructive. If you are committing any of these relationship crimes with your partner, ask yourself why are you doing this to them? Someone you care for, or once cared for. Remember, that when hurting someone that you love, in the end you are hurting yourself. (‘Self Destructive Ex Relationships’)
Communication and trust are huge issues in relationships. A real relationship is reciprocal and equivalent, if your partner is not putting in the effort, ie not dedicating the same amount of emotional effort, not calling, not communicating, not participating in the relationship, it’s not reciprocal and it’s certainly not equivalent.
Stop and tell yourself, I wouldn’t do this to someone else, why am I doing this to me? Or I deserve more than this. Or I will never find more than this if I stay in these situations.
Most of all, go with your gut instincts. If you feel that something just is not right, reevaluate. And if you do choose to proceed and ignore both your instincts and the red flags, be willing to take ownership of your behavior and the consequences.
Please comment below and add to the list of relationship red flags.
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