So let’s face it, things like relationships are not easy, and if there is anything that I have learned from them is that they take time and patience. You cannot expect to go into a relationship thinking you have found Mr. Right or Ms. Perfect, you have to go in thinking there are going to be issues that will have be addressed as time goes on.
One thing that I am learning to deal with is time. Remember that both of you have different estimations of time. He/she may want to spend all day every day with you, but you may have other things in mind, or vice versa. That is normal, but it is also one of the major fights for most couples. You have to learn to compromise your time with theirs. Let’s say work or school, or both, swamp either yours or their week, then weekends should be designated solely for them, wait there is also family to think of. The factors in a relationship are different with every each one. You have to find what fits. It is almost like needing a PDA to pencil everyone in, but you know what in order to make it work there has to be time for everything.
On your days off have lunch with them or grab a quick dinner. On weekends designate time to catch a movie and take a walk in the park afterwards, or snag a some time at a coffee shop before meeting up with your friends or family. And, the one thing that always helps, if your significant other gets along with your friends or family, or both, take them with you when you visit with them. It counts as time together and you get to see both groups all together.
Time is the one luxury most of us do not have anymore. Between practice, work, school, household chores, and peace of mind time, it is hard to find time to fit in a relationship, but as long as there is compromise and understanding you are on the first step to making it work.