When embarking on a weight loss, fitness or healthy journey, the question of whether to tell people often comes up. Telling friends, family, co-workers, neighbors and associates can be an amazing way to gain support, get ideas and motivation when needed. Friends, co-workers and even neighbors might be willing to jump on board with you and take steps toward their own journey of health. Perhaps the right person in your life might come along on an evening exercise session with you. Recipe exchanges, woes of sore legs, cravings and slow moving scales are definitely some things you can share with people in your life on your weight loss journey. Unfortunately, competition, teasing, jealousy and sabotage are also things that can be shared with weight loss efforts.
With any success or determination, drive or stamina you have, it might just set off the green monster of envy in your friend. With jealousy can come sabotage. Whether it’s intentional or not remains to be seen, it probably will depend on your friend and their personality. Some might lose enthusiasm, some might drop altogether, some might go lengths to derail your efforts. Sandra Birks found this when she started living healthy with her neighbor. ” We were doing so well, working out, eating healthy, running three times a week. When I had better results on the scale, my neighbor started to act differently. I knew it was time to stop when she specifically spent hours baking a huge batch of chocolate chip cookies only for me.”
Even the best people in your life may not be the best to share your journey with. Generally ones who have never been concerned with weight, never counted a calorie or read a food label or stepped into a gym may not understand at all. “My sister told me ‘just stop eating!'” Pam S. states, ” If I could do that, then I would never have gained so much weight. She’s clueless on weight loss.” Instead of reaming them for being clueless, make an effort to teach them. In teaching, you can often reinforce your own knowledge and it can resolve your will to keep going based on how much you know.
In the event that you are faced with a negative friend, co-worker or family member, try confronting them. ” My co-worker always asked about everything I put in my mouth, it was so mean. I know she was picking on me, making fun of my efforts for weight loss. I had to confront her and it stopped for good. It was the same as bullying.” Says Fatima, who’s lost 66 pounds. Another way to face the negativity or difficult friend is by telling them what you need. By telling your former eating buddies that you can’t do as much after work pizza and beer as you used to gives them the idea that you are making other choices. You are still going to be able to enjoy your favorite activities, even eating! But perhaps not as much as you and your friends are used to.
Deciding who to tell is going to depend on you, the people you are around and the overall situation. Play it by ear and test the waters a bit here and there. ” I knew right away when I told my buddies I wasn’t drinking alcohol and soda anymore and they gave me a hard time about it.” States Andrew Watson. ” They had no idea that I had been working out and basically on a diet. I knew then I couldn’t share it with them” Testing the water might be a way to see how reactions will differ with each person.
In the end, the effort is yours. Without meaning to, friends and family can distract our minds and derail our efforts with a simple phone call. Stay focused on your life, your eating, your willpower and the rest may just fall in line naturally.