With the woman’s movement and the increase of men and women in the work force, or even being married to the independent strong woman a man may become more of a roommate than a husband. There seems s to be a basic trend that is happening in marriages these days and that is men are no longer the king of their castle and woman are no longer the queen of their castle. The role of husband and wife has become in a way unisex and what this does to a couple’s sex life is it turns it into a non-sexual sex life. This has to do with a woman still feeling like her husband is her man and a man still feeling like his wife is his woman.
The model of a successful marriage is obviously going to depend on the two people that are in it, but one model of marriage that seems to end in divorce or have a higher incidence of affair is the marriage where the husband and wife are no longer respecting each other’s gender differences. The model that does still seem to be around is where the husband and wife both respect each other’s male and female attributives. When a man does not feel the desire of his wife wanting him as a man and a woman does not respect her husband and see him as a man, this leads to a sexless marriage. What this means is that no matter how much a woman wants to have the power or the control in the marriage, she still wants her husband to have masculine traits and act like a man. A man that stops communicating with his wife or give up on pursuing her sexually are not going to get his wife to want or desire him.
Men need to still be masculine in a marriage, meaning that when they can have the confidence in making decisions, protecting the family, providing for the family, acting like a gentleman, dating their wife, expecting their wife to treat them with respect, affection and love, then that is exactly what they will get, the respect and the love of a woman. Woman like their husbands to be their partner, but for them to also act like their man. Too many men have fallen into the trap of losing the basic quality of maleness that attracts a woman to a man to begin with. They let themselves go in the appearance, having large bells and boobs, becoming passive aggressive and winy, losing their sex drive, virility, and the ability to be the protector and provider of the family. When a man can turn this around in his life and take back the control of his own masculinity then he will earn the respect from his wife and have the fantastic sex life that he has lost.
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